SEPTEMBER 2011 Newsletter Content
Eckhart on Peace After a Loss
Q: My sons drowned in the sea ten months ago. I did surrender, but when I felt the peace and calm coming over me, it felt wrong. It was not right to feel peace and calm with such a loss.
ET: The natural way of being after death of a loved one is suffering at first, then there is a deepening. In that deepening, you go to a place where there is no death. And the fact that you felt that means you went deep enough, to the place where there is no death. Conditioned as your mind is by society, the contemporary world that you live in, which knows nothing about that dimension – your mind then tells you that there is something wrong with this. Your mind says “I should not be feeling peace, that is not what one feels in a situation like this”. But that’s a conditioned thought by the culture that you live in. So instead we can recognize when this happens, when that thought comes – recognize it as a conditioned thought that is not true.
It doesn’t mean that the waves of sadness don’t come back from time to time. But in between the waves of sadness, you sense there is peace. As you sense that peace, you sense the essence of your children as well – the timeless essence. So death is a very sacred thing – not just a dreadful thing. When you react to the loss of form, that’s dreadful.
When you go deep enough to the formless, the dreadful is no longer dreadful, it’s sacred. Then you will experience the two levels, when somebody dies who is close to you. Yes it’s dreadful on the level of form. It’s sacred on the deeper level. Death can enable you to find that dimension in yourself. You’re helping countless other humans if you find that dimension in yourself – the sacred dimension of life. Death can help you find the sacred dimension of life – where life is indestructible.
Surrender can open that door for you. Complete acceptance of it. So honor that sacred dimension and realize that what your mind is saying, that it isn’t right, is just a form of conditioning – it isn’t the truth. It is supremely right.
This is always the window into the formless. As you accept it, surrender. Because the form is gone, your mind becomes still when you surrender to death. It’s not through explanations that you accept death. You can have explanations, mental explanations that say, well, he or she will move on or reincarnate, or go to some place of rest. That can be comforting, but you can go to a deeper place than that, where you don’t need explanations – a state of immediate realization of the sacredness of death, because what opens up when the form dissolves is life beyond form. That is the only thing that is sacred. That is the sacred dimension.
You can get tiny glimpses of that when you lose something, and you completely accept that it’s gone. This is a tiny glimpse of death and it can give you a tiny realization – maybe even more than tiny, if you’re ready.
Hola, I have had read most all the books of Eckhart Tolle and they had changed my life, a friend of mine gave it to me for my fiftieth birthday gift, two years ago…three days after I was laid off from the job where I worked for eighteen years. It is one of the best gifts I had ever received. It opened the gate to a world I thought was lost, and it gave me the understanding and compassion toward those I could not deal with.
It helped me to thin the veil in front of me, like a bride, consciousness had removed the veil from my mind and my heart. I’m committed to staying alert and awake. I suffer less, I don’t deny there are some difficult times where I ask for help and I recognize I must surrender in order for consciousness to flow through me .
There are moments where I feel I’m losing the alertness in me. But the body pain is gone; I swing back and observe myself from a distance. Being aware of the Father and the Mother consciousness in me and in all living beings unconditional love comes easy and flow in all directions. I feel the need in others to be awakened and I am ready with my ears and to pass on the knowledge I had learned from Eckhart Tolle, The Tao The Ching, the Course in Miracles and the Christ letters..
I do forward the present moment reminders to my friends and they always look forward to reading them. I want to thank all of you who keep us alert and help and work with Kim and Eckhart.
“When you get into your car, after you close the door, pause for a few seconds and observe the flow of your breath. Become aware of a silent but powerful sense of presence.”
“Thinking isolates a situation and calls it good or bad, as if it had a separate existence. Through excessive reliance on thinking, reality becomes fragmented. This fragmentation is an illusion, but seems very real when you are trapped in it.”
“A culture that denies death inevitably becomes shallow and superficial, concerned only with the external form of things. When death is denied, life loses its depth.”
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