Question:

It is grief I would like you to talk on some more. I have “Even the Sun Will Die” and get it about form, just having lost 3 family members. Even when watching my mind, and feeling some peace, tears just come like a tidal wave.  Then there is a hole, I sit with it, but all the spiritual teaching in the world does not seem to allow relief from grief. It is as if as a human form you have only one way and that is through; I noticed feelings of guilt for the feelings, but even surrender doesn’t seem to help...   for want of trying to communicate my question much is lost... Grief seems separate to me, from all other emotions we experience and can have some effect on anger, self pity ect.?

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Answer:
If you surrender to what you are feeling (and not feed the feeling with your thoughts, with stories), grief will burn up the ego and then show you its other face, which is peace or even joy.  Joy is the dynamic aspect of peace.  But don’t expect to obtain anything through surrender.
You say, “even surrender doesn’t seem to help”.  As long as surrender is a means to an end (help, relief etc.), it is not complete surrender.  There is an expectation.  In true surrender, you ask for nothing, expect nothing.  You simply embrace what is.  Another way of putting it: you suffer consciously.  Blessings on your journey.